Thursday, April 19, 2012
Wednesday, April 11, 2012
I wish I could say that I had the same fierce resolve as we reviewed Kemeri's referral paperwork. But I didn't. I was gripped by fear of the unknowns, so much so that at one point we even thought it best to walk away.
As I have slowly come out of my jetlag fog, I have been thinking a lot about those days of uncertainty & fear. I've also thought about what it might look like if all of my potential special needs or "issues" made their way to paper. Ha, I'm pretty sure I'd have my own fairly tall stack of papers. Lucky for me, there is no such special needs inventory on me to be found on this earth. But my Father in heaven knows every.single.one. Seriously, He looked at my rap sheet of imperfections (that's what I feel like these sweet children get stuck with), but He didn't walk away. He saw promise. He saw worth. He saw hope. He said that I'm chosen, & loved me so much that He laid down His life for me.
It humbles me to say that I had to wrestle with God a lot about what He kept speaking to our heart about this little girl we only knew from the papers in front of us. But He knew her & wanted us to trust Him in that. That one day we would know her, too, beyond the scary words on that paper. And love her fiercely. Do not get me wrong. It is important to know & understand a child's special needs, but knowledge & fear are 2 very different things, & I was allowing fear to rule me. Adoption is a leap of faith, & God was asking us to jump, even though all we knew was what was on paper.
We have now been home for almost 2 weeks, & this is what I know about Kemeri:
- She has a twinkle in her eye & a laugh that sounds like "Boo" on Monsters, Inc., & it is contagious!
- She loves eggs, fruit, pizza, goldfish crackers, lollipops, & jellybeans, not necessarily in that order.
- She likes to go outside, but thinks grass is scary.
- She likes to play with lots of different toys, including baby dolls.
- She likes to snuggle with Mommy when it's time to go to sleep, & goes running with excitement when Daddy gets home.
- She adores her brothers & sisters, & it's so sweet the way she puts her arms up to get a squeezer from them. She does share the occasional push with Kendi.
- She has zero tolerance for messy hands.
- She loves to play in the bath, & now that she has a sister to share a bath with, it's even more fun.
- She thinks our dance parties are silly & fun!
- She was terribly afraid of the dog, but after 9 days, she lifted the restraining order against Ella & they are now great friends.
- She is one of the bravest little girls I know.
There's so much more, & each day brings new discoveries about this little girl of ours. We have already had a couple of medical appointments & are scheduled for a sedated MRI on Friday, but when I look out in the other room to watch her play, the thoughts in my mind are not related to the medical diagnosis we were faced with in that initial paperwork. My heart knows that her diagnosis is that she is our daughter that we love, & even more wonderful...She is a daughter of the King.
"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well." Psalm 139:13-15
Monday, April 2, 2012
This jetlag thing...ugh. I feel like dog meat. Shoot, I probably look like dog meat, too. But I am avoiding mirrors at this point. I wondered about all this talk of jetlag. The only trouble I had when we traveled to Ethiopia was the need for a little earlier bedtime. Evidently, the difference between an 8 hour time difference & a 12 hour one is ginormous. Lucky me.
Last night was the worst yet. I had decided to stay up until about midnight to see if I could make it a bit longer through the night. Big fail. Instead, I never fell asleep. Kemeri did better, but she has little moments that she wakes up crying to make sure I'm there. Fortunately, it doesn't take too long to settle her down & get her back to sleep.
The last time I checked the time, it was about 5 a.m. And then the vicious raccoon came & tried to bite Kade, so I hit it with a baseball bat. Seems the blood attracted wolves to come, so I fought them off until I could get all the kids into Grandpa Jack's cabin. When I tried to yell for him to get his gun, nothing would come out of my mouth, & the wolves were pushing the door in. Finally, Joe showed up, so I was frantically telling him we needed to shoot a gun to scare the wolves away, when I realized some idiot was filming the whole thing with his cell phone. I turned & told him I thought it highly inappropriate for him to be filming this horror, especially since I am a mother of 9 & in my underwear.
I could really use a peaceful night of sleep.