Tuesday, January 11, 2011

Why We Adopted & How Did You Know?

This is a question a lot of people have for us, especially since we adopted after having 5 children biologically. Just the other day, a dear friend of mine blogged about this very subject & her words pretty much sum it up. Please take a moment to go check out the post here.

I also get questions about how we knew "where". The answer is the same as "why?": God. I was rocking Kendi this morning & watching the other two little ones playing on the floor when it hit me again...I become very emotional when I think of the journey to each of our children. Each journey was very different, but one aspect was the same: God would place an undeniable tugging on my heart that would become almost urgent in nature to the point I would become consumed with praying & seeking where it was He wanted us to go. I wish I could say it was always easy to understand or that I just said, "Ok!", because it wasn't like that. We would wrestle, pray, "quit", wrestle some more, pray...& then finally ask & surrender. Seems I always tend to leave that surrender part out, but once we would remember that it was crucial to hearing God & then following, the paths to our children would become more clear. And, honestly, each "path" was not at all the one we originally thought we ought to be on (you know, our plan vs. His plan). I said I would never do foster care, never adopt internationally, that I couldn't imagine that a birth mother would ever choose a large family for her baby. I am thankful each & every day that where I saw never, God saw the possibilities & the opportunity to stretch & grow our family's faith, transform our minds, & increase our capacity to love.

I don't know if God will call us to adoption again. But I know that there will be a day that He calls us again to something. I pray that I have ears to hear the invitation & that my response is an unwavering, "Yes, Lord" because I can't imagine what my life would look like if I had not said "yes" to adoption.

How about you? Is the Lord tugging on your heart? Please let me know if I can pray for you about something...Either leave me a comment or contact me through the email linked to my profile.

9 comments:

one + one said...

Dardi, I love this statement:
" I am thankful each & every day that where I saw never, God saw the possibilities & the opportunity to stretch & grow our family's faith, transform our minds, & increase our capacity to love."

Can I quote you on that one? :)

Dardi said...

Quote away! I'm not sure I've ever been quoted before. Well, maybe by some certain teenagers, but for some reason, that never seems flattering...lol!

Shonni said...

That article was perfect was’t it! And your quote also!!!

Sharon said...

Dardi-Beautiful. Love this.

Karen said...

Great post!

Adeye said...

Sooooo absolutely perfectly and beautiful written, friend. Love it.

Amy said...

I.adore.you. :) And, just so ya know, I am thinking it's time for some more pictures of some certain adorable kiddo's of yours- cause I know how quickly they change. :) (MAJOR HINT HERE)

Audrey said...

What a beautiful post! I have been following your journey for a while and am very encouraged. Our current prayer is that God would show us the direction to go. We have been on a waiting list with a domestic agency for a little over a month. And also have just joined a waiting list at a baby home in Uganda. The finances are our biggest hurdle and we are just praying that God will make it obvious to us the way he wants us to go.

Mama D.'s Dozen said...

Great post!

We had 10 bio. kids ... and then God called us to adopted. It was certainly not our plan ... but His.

Laurel