Friday, September 10, 2010

An Update of Sorts

I'm not gonna lie. I've had a rough time with this post, but I finally decided just to start.

The young man that has been living with us for the last six weeks left over the weekend. Out of respect for privacy, I am not using his name, & I have removed the post that contained pictures. So, if you happen to be visiting for the first time, I apologize that this post may not make any sense to you.

Yes, I am sad. Yes, I am frustrated. Yes, I have lots of different emotions going on. One thing I've learned in my 20+ years of parenting is that you can guide, encourage, lay groundwork, etc., but ultimately, you cannot control other people, and you certainly cannot make their choices for them.

Currently, I am trying to come to terms with the fact that there are times you are called for short seasons, & you have to hope that seeds that have been planted will one day take root & grow. Not easy for a girl that is all about long-term planning.

Resting & trusting in the One that knows "the plan". . .

9 comments:

Sharon said...

Dardi, I'm sure your momma's heart is deeply aching. Praying for all of you in this really difficult situation.
Hugs to you, my friend!

Adeye said...

Oh my friend, I cannot even imagine. What a TOUGH road to have to walk. My prayer is that seed has been planted in his heart and that, in time, it WILL grow into something that is fruitful and good.

I know your heart must be aching. Sending you a HUGE hug tonightu

Who are we? said...

Praying for him and you.I so respect and am challenged by how you share your heart and home.

Meredith said...

Praying for you; for peace and comfort as your heart aches and for wisdom as God continues to unravel His plan for you.

We'll continue to pray for L as we placed him in our prayer book.

Hugs friend.

Christie said...

Dardi,

Forgive me for just now catching up...

Please know that God is pleased by your willingness to say "Yes" even when it hurts. He's pleased by your steadfastness even in the life of someone that HE has to change.

I am positive that a seed was planted...no doubt. God will cultivate it.

I will be praying for you...feel free to email me if there's anything specific I can be praying for.

LOVE YOU!

Amy said...

Love you my friend and so proud of how you live your life- always willing, even when it's hard. Thank you for being who you are.

Amy said...

Love you my friend and so proud of how you live your life- always willing, even when it's hard. Thank you for being who you are.

Mama D.'s Dozen said...

So sorry your Mama heart is hurting. I have been there ... done that ... several times.

We have opened our home several times and "unofficially adopted" multiple teenagers. Sometimes they have craved our love and security, but they have been unwilling to live by our guidelines. We have had to release them "back into the world", knowing that we gave what the Lord called us to give, and praying that they will have seen God's love shine through us.

One of those young ladies turned away from our family for quite a few years. She wanted my love, yet she didn't want me to "mother her". (Her mother had actually passed away when she was 15, and her mother had asked me to mother her.) However ... this young lady is now 29 and we have a BEAUTIFUL relationship. I am her "mama" ... I will be a grandma to her children when the Lord blessed her with a family. She acknowledges pushing us away, yet also thanks us for all that we did for her during her teen years.

Then ... 2.5 years ago ... we adopted 3 siblings from Africa. We fully intended that we would be there "forever family". It never crossed our minds that the Lord would have any other plan. However, after 15 months home, we discovered the most horrifying nightmare in our own home. We knew immediately that the Lord was calling us to find a new family for one of our children. The pain was unbearable, but the Lord confirmed over and over that this was His plan ... that we had been called to bring this teen boy to America, but that we were not destined to be his forever family. Heartbreaking ... yet we are at peace that he is now where he needs to be.

Keep trusting! Know that you have done what the Lord has called you to do, but that this young man will also be responsible for the choices that he has made.

Be BLESSED!

Laurel

Sean and Lisa said...

Big hugs! It's not easy pouring everything into a child and their resistance to it BUT GOD! He had a plan in all of it. He trusted you with one of the most difficult jobs.....plowing and planting! He promises His word will not return void and so I am believing that one day that boy you poured into and loved unabandonedly WILL produce good fruit, Godly fruit for HIS glory!! God's not finished with him yet! He's still at work and He will bring others into his path and life to continue the good work you and your family have started.
Thanks for walking the walk faithfully, fully and with love!!
Much love!
Lisa